Understanding a Passive Aggressive Partner

Does your partner avoid responsibility through passivity? Or hides anger and has a fear of confrontation and has an inability to deal straight with people?
If the answer is YES then you are dealing with a passive-aggressive person. Your partner may have not learned how to be in an equal, mature relationship because of unresolved personal pain and repressed anger from childhood. There are also other causes of having such personality disorder. It refers to behavior that results in unalterable and unchangeable attitude towards the environment as well as the people around the person.
There are symptoms such as:

• disagreeing with other people’s wishes and beliefs
• forgetting, complaining, disliking other people’s ideas
• giving sarcastic comments
• blaming other people

Your partner might have a hard time adjusting and creating relationships with people around him. But you, as a partner, can help. It takes a lot of time to understand someone with this kind of behavior. But always remember, don’t expect too much of anything fundamental from him. You have to understand that being passive aggressive, is having an unhealthy personality – unbalanced points of view and unable to control emotions.
You know what you want, having a companion to share wonderful moments in your life. But at some point, you start noticing that your companion is always uneasy, upset, and insecure with just about anything. You have to be aware of your partner’s behavior.
What would you do? Will you take the risk of entering another difficult relationship? The two of you must help one another in finding out the cause of your conflicting situation. It is important for you to make your partner realize that there is a problem.
A passive aggressive person is self motivated. So it is all up to your partner if he decides to change. Your partner must focus on every day problems as well as solutions. He must understand the problems even though there will be a denial at first. You must also help your partner establish control to lessen passive aggressive actions.

If you are spending too much time in a relationship that lacks intimacy, closeness nor cooperation, take a good look at your need to live with conflict. If you have done everything, consider leaving. Or just simply accept that things will not change because that is the way he is, then try live a happy life anyway.

To your happiness,

Neil Warner
Creative Conflict Resolutions
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