Overcome Those Nerves And Depressive Thoughts

I used to be quite a fragile character, some would say that I was even scared of my own shadow. I was always paranoid that people were talking about me and laughing behind my back.

So why was I like this? Well it was mainly because, in my opinion, I had a stutter. It started when I was aged four and despite attending various forms of stop stammering therapy I was unable to find the solution which would enable me to achieve fluency.

By the age of twenty-two I had basically had enough of living life in this manner and knew that the time had arrived when I needed to become far more self-assured. I could not continue to live my life as I had been, as I would probably be dead by the time I was fifty.

I then went about a self-help program to increase my overall self-confidence and self-esteem. I was extremely keen to discover the secrets to happiness; to achieve fluency and of ways to deal with my depression.

What I found out over the next twelve to eighteen months would change my life forever.

These are the things I had to do:

I had to stop feeling sorry for myself. Yes I am not perfect but who is.

I had to think in a more positive way. This was something I had somehow learnt to do in my business life where I work for a company that sells composite front doors but I had never managed to do it in my personal life.
 
I had to stop worrying about the future.

I needed to become a much more care-free person – I was at that stage far too concerned about what other people thought of me.

I needed to smile more.

I needed to learn to relax. Over the last few months I have been using meditation to help me with this.

I had to learn to like myself.

I needed to become stronger to fight away the negative thoughts in my head.

I realised that I needed to concentrate on the positive aspects of my life rather than wallowing in the self-pity of thinking about what I believed I did not have in life.

I started to implement the above and it helped me no end. That horrible cloud of doom, still descended however, around once a month. When it does descend, I now write two lists. What I am happy about in life and what I am sad or worrying about. I then analyse both lists and more times than not, I am actually over-reacting.

I am now a much more positive person and this is having a good affect on my business life where I now work for a ”cheaper mobile phone calls” company and also helping people to overcome stuttering.

I wish you every success with your efforts to gain in self-confidence.

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